You've probably already heard from overweight people once: "It's just heavy bones!" But with this myth, you can do away with it once and for all. Finally find out if heavy bones really exist.
How heavy are our bones?
Is overweight caused by heavy bones? This is a myth and lazy excuse of fat people. This has been confirmed by the Federal Ministry of Education and scientific research. The bones form the structure of the skeleton, which supports the body and allows the body to stand upright.
In an average person, bones make up about 8 to 9% of the total body weight. It would be only 7.2 kg at 80 kilograms. Not at all a reason to be overweight.
The weight of a bone is derived from its size and density. Thus, individual bones have different weights. In general, women have somewhat lighter and thinner bones than men. Moreover, due to high mobility, healed injuries, as well as genetic predisposition, bone density can vary. However, these fluctuations are at most 10% within the bone mass and are not more than one kilogram per person.
What then makes people heavy?
What really leads to being overweight is the accumulated fat in our body. Which is the result of too much food or an unbalanced diet, which is set aside as a reserve for a rainy day. Of course, there is another reason why some non-fat people are heavier than others. Muscle is very heavy compared to fat. So a muscular man weighs more than a thin and unathletic one.
Heavy people are somewhat denser and therefore bones become heavier over time. Because their body needs more support, and it doesn't matter whether it's too much fat or too much muscle mass. These somewhat heavier bones do not cause overweight
Can bone density be improved?
By poor diet or diseases such as osteoporosis leads to a decrease in bone density. As a result, damage to the skeleton and serious consequences for health. However, you can influence your bone density yourself. Through a diet rich in calcium, bones are strengthened. In addition, frequent and regular exercise also contributes to the development of dense and stable bones.
Researchers' opinion
Canadian scientists have found that the higher the load, the wider and heavier the bone. Before drawing this conclusion, they observed the physical activity of adolescents. Researchers claim that sport helps not to break down in the literal sense. Not only muscles become stronger, but also the skeleton. It is known that a person has exactly 206 bones. All of them form a vertical column. Thanks to him, the body can afford to walk on two legs. The human hand is considered the most bony - it consists of more than 54 elements.
Tubular, short, flat and mixed - each bone has its own purpose, but the function is the same: to serve as a strong frame for the body. The worst thing that the skeleton can get sick with is “osteogenesis imperfecta” (crystal disease).
What contributes to the strengthening of bone tissue?
The structure of a person's bones changes throughout his life. After birth, it increases, reaching a peak by 25-30 years. 30 to 45 years old density bone tissue practically does not change, and after 45 years, regardless of whether a person is sick or healthy, a natural physiological process of rarefaction of the bone structure begins.
To keep bone density from decreasing, you should not only exercise exercise, but also include foods high in calcium in the diet. The daily intake of calcium for an adult is 1200 milligrams. Most of all it is in cottage cheese, cheese, whole milk, fermented milk products. If calcium is not supplied enough, the body begins to take it from the bones.
Some numbers
Where the excuse “I have a wide bone” came from is hard to say. But you can publish a text about how much the skeleton weighs and how much its weight can differ from person to person. different people.
A dry, fat-free and dehydrated human skeleton (that is, what will remain of us in this world) weighs on average only about 4 kg for men and about 2.8 kg for women. In percentage terms, the skeleton occupies approximately 6-7% of the body weight in an adult.
Bone density makes adjustments
We all know from the course of the school curriculum what density is - and so, with the same volumes, the skeletons of different people of a person can have slightly different weights, i.e. Some people will have thicker bones, some less. How big a difference can there be and what does it depend on?
Bone mineral density can change with age (including due to osteoporosis), with concomitant diseases, nutrition (decrease with malnutrition, and vice versa - with sufficient nutrition). Also, bone density depends on weight loss or weight gain: scientists have calculated that with the loss of each 1 kg of fat in the body, an average of about 16.5 g of minerals is lost in the bones, in fact, when gaining the same 1 kg of fat, about the same amount is restored by background of the existing training volume.
Here are typical normal values for bone density, including data for athletes and athletes who develop bone tissue adaptation to impact loading, and an approximate calculation of the difference in grams between these values, so that you can clearly understand what is the general value for total bone / skeletal weight, has bone density.
Average values for bone mass density in adults are in the region of 1.0 – 1.2 g/cm2. Roughly speaking, this can be translated as +/-10% in different people depending on the factor. These values vary by age, gender, race, level, and type. physical activity, nutritional status, the state of the body, the presence of diseases, etc.
By the way, even growth hormone does not make significant adjustments to bone density. Scientists conducted a controlled 15-year study in which growth hormone injections were given to more than 100 people. Bottom line: over 15 years, the average increase in bone mass was only 14 grams.
Wide but light
In the end, what do we have: what total weight human bones, excluding fat and liquid filling, is something around 4-5 kg in adult men and 2-3 kg in adult women.
Within these same boundaries, the mass may fluctuate, depending on the density of the bone mass, but again, this difference will not be so significant, in any case - up to 1 kg, depending on the density of the bone mass. By by and large, talk about “broad bone”, “powerful skeleton”, which drastically affect the overall weight of a person’s body, “fat power” and a genetic predisposition to increased weight gain, in fact, is not entirely comparable with the real state of affairs.
Yes, the difference in height and build certainly gives its shifts in various indicators of bone mass from person to person, but these indicators do not differ by 5-10 kilograms, but average no more than 2-3 kg from person to person.
Netizens responses
a guest
This means that the bones are denser than those of other dead-boned people, but a heavy bone has one or even two minuses, firstly, a heavy bone makes a person fat, and secondly, and for a girl, this is especially important, with a heavy bone, a person walks with a limp, barely rearranging legs, and non-plastic.
Anna
What nonsense, a heavy bone does not mean at all that a person is overweight, he can be thin, it’s just that the structure of the skeleton is not athletic and non-plastic, a person cannot “lift his leg”, junk is hard for him, and he walks with a heavy gait.
Svetlana
It's the 21st century, and people still don't know such elementary things! Bones weigh the same for everyone: 7 kg for women, 10 kg for men. If the bones, as they say, were “heavy” not in words, a person simply would not be able to fully move, the joints could not absorb all movements. The expression itself refers to people of dense physique. By the way, there were no full ones in Buchenwald.
Pie
The human skeleton is made up of about 206 bones, which healthy person make up about 17.5% of body weight. Muscle accounts for 43% internal organs≈ 19%, leather and subcutaneous fat≈ 17.8%, brain ≈ 2.2%. These data are averaged and vary from person to person.
Uninvited Guest
It's like mine. With a height of 49 kg, I look large. Not complete, but some kind of wide. Even when she weighed 47, she was still far from thin in appearance. For all my attempts to achieve elegance, I get a zero result, because even with a small weight there is no elegance at all. In general, a disgusting physique, especially with short stature.
It's true. it all depends on the number of partitions in the spongy bones, the thickness of the bone wall, the content of calcium and other trace elements. Men have heavier bones than women.
GooD HaSH
Heavy bones simply have more weight. And when the bones are heavy, this is very good, because fractures and all sorts of cracks happen several times less often than in people with light bones. By the way, heavy bones can be not only in men, but also in women.
Nathilty
In everyday life, this often means the constitution of the skeletal structure, the bone tissue itself is porous and calcium and other minerals should normally accumulate in these pores, and due to multiple pregnancy, prolonged periods, when taking medicines(diuretic, antihistamine, etc.), due to age-related changes leaching of calcium occurs, the so-called osteoporosis
All answers are generally correct, I'll just add, in women, bone thickness can be determined by measuring the wrist, unless you are severely obese, of course. Less than 16-17 bones are light, more heavy.
Bones cannot be heavy or light. Most likely, this refers to the type of physique. There are only three of them - mesomorphic - the so-called average build, people of this type are usually of medium height, they have moderately developed muscles, etc.; the brachymorph type suggests a wide skeleton, that is, the bones of this type are not heavier, but wider than those of other types. People of this type usually have wide brushes hands, they have big size legs, broad shoulders. And the last type is dolichomorphic. These are the elves. They have a fragile physique, usually long thin fingers, narrow chest. Determining your body type is easy - just measure your wrist. If you get a figure less than 15 cm for a woman, then you have a narrow bone, if from 15 to 17 cm - you have an average physique, if the value is more than 17 cm, then you have wide bones.
Olga
a heavy bone is a heavy bone. Wide bone can be light, narrow bone can be heavy. I have a wide and heavy one. As a child, when I was skinny as a bicycle, I always weighed more than my peers, of similar height and build. From there I know that my bone is heavy 🙂
The life observations of each of us with full confidence confirm the fact that people get fat in completely different ways. One is enough to eat a little sweet, and the weight will begin to increase. Others do not lose the elegance of their figure even after hearty dinners. Why is this happening? In most cases, it depends on the physique of the person. And it, as you know, is given to everyone by nature.
Three types are classified: normosthenic and hypersthenic. Determining whether a person belongs to any of these categories is quite simple. To do this, measure the circumference of the wrist, which is working. In the case when this indicator is in the range from sixteen to eighteen and a half centimeters, we can talk about a normosthenic physique. The figure of a person with such parameters basically has the correct ratios and proportionality of its main parts.
If the circumference of the wrist is less than sixteen centimeters, then classify asthenic (thin-boned) addition. In such people, there is a predominance of the longitudinal dimensions of the body over the transverse ones. They are usually light in weight, long and beautiful neck, a little and hands, and muscles are poorly developed.
A wide bone (you see the photo below) indicates belonging to a hypersthenic build.
People belonging to this type have a transverse body size that is much larger than that of asthenics and normosthenics. The circumference of the wrist of a person whose bone is wide exceeds eighteen and a half centimeters. This one is characterized by the shoulders and chest. While the bone is wide, it is also somewhat heavy. Hypersthenics more than others tend to be overweight.
There is also an indicator of the ratio of a person's height to the length of his legs. There are also certain proportions. In the case when the length of a person's legs is less than half of his height, they are considered short. Women should not be upset about this. Everything can be fixed with high heels. Those who have a wide bone, and legs two to four centimeters more than half the height, can consider their figure beautiful. For normosthenics, this indicator is within four to six, and for asthenics - six to nine centimeters.
The correct ones for those who have a wide bone are within the following limits:
Eight to ten centimeters more than half the height;
- waist circumference is within seventy-seventy-six centimeters (height is 166-168 cm);
- hip circumference with the same height - ninety-five - one hundred and four centimeters.
For asthenic and normosthenic body types, these figures are somewhat lower.
Girls with broad bone can have a beautiful and attractive figure. Their difference from representatives of other body types lies only in the width of the wrist, hips and shoulders. At the same time, all women should remember that any of them are distinguished from the crowd by a graceful gait, a straight head, a proud posture, as well as the ability to freely control their body, and not indicators of the ideal figure.
Until the age of 25, I was firmly convinced that I would never have to limit myself in food. Now I understand that if I had been a little less lucky with my metabolism, then with such eating habits, I simply would not have crawled through the door. And a few years ago, I sincerely wondered why someone couldn’t eat half a cake at night or deny themselves fresh pastries. I remember the anxious glances of a photo editor at one of my previous jobs, when I devoured pies one by one, sitting at the monitor. “Oh, you’ll spoil the figure!” He sighed and I just laughed.
But, despite the fact that I was thin since childhood, beautiful press never boasted. “You have such a structure: the stomach is set close,” my relatives told me, and I took it for granted. Well, what can you do - such heredity! I think that I would have spent my whole life with this naive confidence if one day I had not come to the gym. She came, as is usually the case, with the intention of "slightly tightening her muscles." Months of “amateur activity” and useless exercises - and then the truth suddenly revealed: you can radically change your body, if you only want to. True, this requires not only training, but also thoughtful nutrition. And "close-set stomach" is just as stupid as "wide bone." We eliminate buns and cakes - we get the coveted strip on the stomach.
A host of other real-life examples lead me to believe that what we consider to be an irresistible genetic feature is very often nothing more than the result of our ignorance, laziness and inaction.
Almost all participants in the Lose Weight with Lady project, suffering from excess weight, grew up in families where fullness was considered hereditary. Although in the process of communicating with nutritionists, it turned out that the reason for everything is the wrong lifestyle, to which all family members are accustomed. Yes, the recipes for rich borscht and pork chops, passed down from generation to generation, and joint evenings at the TV, and not the “big bone”, are most often to blame.
X-ray of a person weighing more than 200 kg. As you can see, the width of the bone is quite standard
I look with admiration at one of my colleagues: athletic, slender, energetic Ksyusha. Five days a week you can see her in the mornings in the corporate gym, and at exactly 13.00 she has lunch in the kitchen: salad, vegetables, fish. She counts calories and does not look exhausted at all: on the contrary, she is full of energy. A few years ago, Ksyusha was able to lose 20 kg and now keeps herself in great shape. “When I now come to visit relatives, they say that they are ashamed in front of me. That looking at me, they understand that this is not a “big bone”, but banal laziness.
Another example: I once met a girl who teaches strip plastic. I was surprised by her flexibility and grace, and how easily she sat on the splits. I was amazed when I learned that by nature her body is literally “wooden”, and stretching has always been incredibly difficult for her. But Katya wanted to dance so much that she constantly overcame herself. For years, she had to learn what others were given without difficulty. Can you imagine how insulting it is: a beginner, having barely come to class, easily does what you did only after a couple of years? But this did not stop her: “I did not compare myself with others, but with the one I was in the past, and I understood that I was moving forward.”
So is there a notorious heredity, and how important is it in improving the body?
Yes, indeed, the metabolic rate of different people may vary, although this factor is not always due to heredity. And there are lucky ones who are able to eat almost as much as they like and not get better, but most often it is only up to a certain time. So, erratic eating had practically no effect on my figure until the age of 25. But at some point, I nevertheless realized that I was starting to look different than I would like. Indeed, in addition to the quantity of the body, there is also quality - it can be elastic or loose, toned or flabby, young or old. Sports and healthy eating everyone needs it, regardless of weight and volume. But for those who are lucky by nature, it is often difficult to take on themselves. And when the reflection in the mirror begins to upset, it is often too late to radically change something. So luck is doubtful!
There are those who know for sure: it is enough for them to eat a couple of pieces of cake in the evening in order to see +1.5 kilograms on the scales in the morning! These women, as a rule, realize earlier that beautiful body means hard work. And when, after 30 years, their girlfriends, lucky thin women who have not denied themselves anything all their lives, turn into “skinny-fat”, they, who have kept themselves in control all the time, will remain slim and young. If you are one of those who are not lucky by nature, remember: “bad” heredity in this case can turn into your trump card!
In a word, do not hesitate: in matters of harmony, genetics is far from a determining thing. What really matters is your lifestyle, your diet, and how strong your desire to change is. And if, after reading this column, you still want to be indignant: "It's easy for you to say, but my bone is really wide," just open the refrigerator now. Look carefully at sausages and sausages, drinkable yogurt, which has more sugar than milk. Count how many times a day you drink tea with "something tasty." And then repeat this phrase again.
It is believed that thin bones are a feature of the human body that interferes with the set muscle mass. V gyms you can hear: a lot of meat will not grow on a thin bone.
Thin bone and body type
Bone thickness is an important parameter for determining a person's somatotype - his bodily structure, or body type. According to McRobert, a wrist circumference of 17.5 cm or less indicates an ectomorphic somatotype. True, it is worth noting that it is not entirely correct to judge the type of physique by one single sign. In fact, body type is determined not only by the thickness, but also by the length of the bones. Moreover, the classification of physique is based not only on the signs of the skeletal system, but also on other body systems (the main ones are taken into account in ours).
If we judge the type of a person only by the bones, then it must be said that it is necessary to study not only the thickness of the wrist, but also the thickness of the ankle. In a true ectomorph, the thickness of the wrist and ankle will be proportional. If a person has thin bones of the hands (score from the wrist), but the bones of the legs (score from the ankle) are not, then talking about an ectomorphic body type is a mistake. By the way, about the thickness of the ankle: a girth of 22.5 cm and below indicates a thin bone. At the same time, if the difference between the thickness of the wrist and ankle is 5 cm, then we can say that the thickness of the bones of the arms and legs is proportional.
Thin bone and muscle growth
Let's return to the "folk wisdom" mentioned above: "a lot of meat will not grow on a thin bone." Is it because of the thickness of the bones that the muscles do not grow? No. Bone thickness is just a signal of how physically powerful (strong) your body is. And if he is not so (physically powerful, strong), then he grows poorly - this also applies to the thickness of the bones and the thickness of the muscles. There are, however, exceptions when there is a good muscle mass on thin bones.
The power of the body depends on health and genetics, which, in principle, are interconnected.
Health is not only immunity, but also the general condition (functionality) of the body, that is, its performance. For example, lethargy, frailty, physical passivity are what are associated with poor health. The initial (primary) point of determining the level of health is the assessment of the cardiac system. Check with a cardiologist in a state of calm and physical activity the work of your of cardio-vascular system(). If there are certain violations, deviations from the norm, then consider that you will constantly have problems with muscle growth.
In turn, genetic power is either heredity (parents' genes) or the result of your own genes. Genes act on us through intermediaries, the main of which are hormones. Therefore, the genetic power of the body is controlled by the hormonal state. It is the activity of hormones that affects the growth of both bone, muscle, and even adipose tissue. A thin bone is most often evidence of insufficient secretion of sex hormones (insufficient precisely for physical strength (power); from the point of view of normal life, the level of hormones is usually quite normal).
Oddly enough, but in this regard, it is possible to fight with genetics. Indeed, to increase the amount of sex hormones in the body, it is enough to train correctly. We have written more than once about the effect of training on the stimulation of sex hormones (testosterone). However, once again we emphasize the fundamental: it stimulates the secretion of testosterone and keeps it best.
The hormonal background is not everything for bone growth in breadth. Bone thickening (meaning normal, healthy, not pathological, such as osteosclerosis) is:
mechanical load + sufficient hormonal levels + normal bone metabolism.
By the way, it is strength-style training that allows you to create that mechanical load that most stimulates the compaction (strengthening) of the bones. With regard to metabolism in bone tissue, it is important to know the following: necessary elements for the normal functioning of bones are calcium, phosphorus and vitamin D. Of course, other micro and macro elements also play a significant role.
Thickness vs. bone length
If bone thickness is an indirect sign of predisposition to bodybuilding (associated rather with a general physical development human), then the length of the bone is a parameter that can be directly related to the features muscle growth. The fact is that the growth of muscles on bones of different lengths can be carried out in different ways.
So, a typical picture for short bones: the body of the muscle (abdomen, i.e. its main mass) sharpens at the ends of the bone, turning into the so-called muscle tails, with which the muscle is attached to the bone; muscle tails are also pulled together by tendons.
A typical picture for long bones: the body of the muscle (abdomen) begins to sharpen relatively far from the ends of the bone and passes into muscle tails, then (toward the ends) the muscle tails pass into tendons, with the help of which muscle group attached to the bone. It turns out that the bulk of the muscle is not concentrated along the entire length of the bone, if the bone is long. That is, there is no more meat on long bones than on short ones. But in order to increase the meat on long bones, the muscle gain must be significantly greater, which significantly lengthens the solution to the problem in time.
Results
1. If you are truly an ectomorph, then bone thickness is the result of the rate of metabolic reactions in your body. She (this speed), as a rule, interferes with the normal set of muscle mass. We call this part of ectomorphs hardgainers (ectomorphic hardgainers). At the same time, according to observations, for a separate part of ectomorphs, growing muscles is not a problem.
2. If you are not an ectomorph, but you have thin bones and you are not gaining mass well, then:
(a) you do not have enough physical strength (health) for muscle hypertrophy; you most likely endure physical activity hard, recover for a long time after them. Perhaps your health is not all right, or you have a low physical potential from birth (usually in such cases, in contrast, nature rewards with high intellectual potential). Either way, you are a hardgainer.
(b) you have poor bodybuilding genetics. Perhaps this is due to the "bad" type muscle fibers, insufficiency of some hormones (for example, testosterone) or excess of others (for example, estrogen), or some features of an ectomorph transmitted from mom or dad. In other words, you are also a hardgainer.
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Human morphology: / Ed. B.A. Nikityuk, V.P. Chtetsov. Publishing House of Moscow State University, 1990.
A lot of people who suffer from being overweight today grew up in families where fullness was considered hereditary. Although in the process of communicating with nutritionists, it turned out that the reason for everything is the wrong lifestyle, to which all family members are accustomed.
Yes, most often to blame are rich borscht, in which there are spoons, fatty meatballs, as well as joint evenings at the TV under “something tasty”.
Often, what we think of as an irresistible genetic feature turns out to be just the result of overeating. Is it bad? Of course not, that means we can fix it!
Myth or reality: does it happen?
Pictured are two twin sisters. Those. parents, heredity and predisposition they have in common! They love to confuse genetics and wrong eating habits instilled in the family! “Everyone in my family is full” is correct: everyone eats dumplings with mayonnaise at night.
IMPORTANT POINT: yes, differences in skeletal structures do exist, it is foolish to deny it. There are girls with wide hips even with a low percentage of fat, and there are owners of a boyish figure and an almost complete absence of curves.
People with "narrower" bones usually have small hands and feet, thin fingers, if a woman, then narrow shoulders, narrow rib cage. Those who have wider bones in their structure, respectively, and wider feet and wrists, and, most importantly within the framework of this article, more muscle mass.
The wider the bone, the more muscle that are attached to it. But if you believe that muscle is much heavier than fat, then we advise you to watch this video. It perfectly shows that the weight of animal fat and muscle is about the same!
There are other data on this topic. Muscle tissue weighs more than fat, but not at times, due to different density:
muscle density - 1.3 gr. on see;
fat density - about 0.9 gr. on cm.
This means that fat weighs less than muscle by about one and a half times. There is a difference, but not as significant as many people think.
Therefore, with all the parameters taken into account, complaints about the very “wide bone”, which adds from 5 to 15 kg. To overall weight human body, "fat power" and genetic predisposition to increased weight gain, in fact, are not entirely comparable with the real state of affairs.
And the amount of fat is absolutely not related to the wide bone. Let your hips be a little wider than others, but it will be two big differences: whether they will be with 10 kg of fat on them or with 2. Yes, a wide bone can give external massiveness (although you must admit, this is more than attractive), but not the extra 50kg of fat.
Photo
Look, in the left picture it seems that the girl has very wide shoulders, but after losing weight it becomes clear that these are not bones, but fat that makes her so square 
Hips narrowed 🙂 How to determine?
How to understand if the bone is wide or not? Feel yourself 🙂 If you feel fat through the skin, then, alas, you won’t be able to blame it on the bones. But if under the skin you feel a hard surface with a slight fat layer, then you are the happy owner of chic, wide hips, which the vast majority of men consider sexy!
What means?
The search for a wide bone means one thing: that you clearly need to lose weight! Many people believe in the "big bone" more than the big bang theory. Except for the inside where the brain is located, bones are solid structures made of calcium.
Once you stop growing, you can't change the size of your bones without seriously harming your health. However, you can change the size of body fat. This is what will help you change your appearance. Therefore, read this article to the end and find out how to solve the problem.
So what if you don’t see a waist like that of a young Gurchenko? But they did not approach Krachkovskaya either. So love yourself and take care of yourself without any complexes!
How to lose weight?
What is body positivity in simple words?
Unfortunately, the true meaning of body positivity is now lost behind the showdown of fat ladies with clothing companies (as well as, by the way). The message is that a person (yes, not only women, but also men) is not obliged to be “attractive” for anyone according to some gloss standards.
If a person is satisfied with his own beauty, he is not obliged to chase after utopian newfangled trends. We are absolutely not against the overweight and support such a body-positive: you don’t need to be like someone else, you need to be better than yourself yesterday. Let a person decide for himself what kind of life he should live.
Love yourself the way you are. But do not harm other people with this, do not force them to love you - your freedom ends where the freedom of another person begins!
Body positivity is about diversity of beauty. About the ability to see it everywhere - in others, in yourself. Around. About your right to have a nose, not like the models in the magazine, and a couple of extra pounds. About the ability to enjoy the possibilities of your body - from running jumping into the water to sex.
Love yourself, but don't indulge yourself! There is a lot of talk today about love, especially about loving yourself first. But no one talks about what kind of love this should be. No one says that love can be painful: overprotective, destructive, pulling back, hindering progress.
No one says that love is not the satisfaction of all one's desires, it is not self-pity, it is not “wrapping oneself in cotton wool” and intentionally avoiding difficulties. True love is not about following your destructive habits, but about getting better, moving forward: taking care of your health and well-being.
Self love should make you a better person. If it's not, then it's a surrogate. Chocolate, cigarette, Bloody Mary - these are not manifestations of your love for yourself, but only an ersatz one slipped into your subconscious.
For example, you decide to go on a diet, but at the same time perceive it as a severe restriction, as a mockery. You suffer from refusing high-calorie, fatty, sweet foods. And in the depths of your subconscious, the conclusion is born that you do not love yourself, since you voluntarily doom yourself to such sacrifices.
Your subconscious thinks within the framework that you yourself have given it. Everything is mixed up in your life - it seems to you that self-love, true pleasure lies in following your emotions and the thoughts that you associate with them, and the slightest deviation from a given trajectory is stress and pain.
Remember, everything is in your head and everything is in your hands. Our article can help you deal with similar problems.
Funny video
Do not be upset because of the weight, but rather listen to the cool song “Oh, you are a wide bone”: